Category Archives: Family Affairs

The Children’s Rights in Islam (part 1)

The Children’s Rights in Islam (part 1)

Author: Ustadz Abu Ahmad Said Yai

A child is a gift from Allah the Glorified and Exalted, a gift that increases the joy of its parents. A joy that could not be measured with wealth.

A child is a favor from Allah, thus, it is proper for a couple to be grateful to Allah for His favor. Allah the Glorified and Exalted decreed,

{لِلَّهِ مُلْكُ السَّمَاوَاتِ وَالْأَرْضِ يَخْلُقُ مَا يَشَاءُ يَهَبُ لِمَنْ يَشَاءُ إِنَاثًا وَيَهَبُ لِمَنْ يَشَاءُ الذُّكُورَ (49) أَوْ يُزَوِّجُهُمْ ذُكْرَانًا وَإِنَاثًا وَيَجْعَلُ مَنْ يَشَاءُ عَقِيمًا إِنَّهُ عَلِيمٌ قَدِيرٌ (50)} [الشورى:49ـ50]

“The dominion of the heavens and the earth belongs to Allah. He creates whatever He pleases. He grants females to whomever He pleases and males to whomever He pleases, or grants them a mix of males and females, and causes whomever He pleases to be barren. He is All- Knowing, All-Powerful.” (Chapter Asy Syuura/The Consultation:49-50)

Among the way to be grateful is to pay attention to the children’s rights, which in turn will lead to a harmonious relationship between family members, obedient children, and the forming of their righteous attitudes that in future will be ready to build their religion, nation, and country.
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The Children’s Rights in Islam -part 3

The Children’s Rights in Islam -part 3

Author: Ustadz Abu Ahmad Said Yai

20. Train him to use his wealth properly according to his needs, and get him used to save it and avoid extravagant lifestyle

Parent should pay a close attention to this point, because wealth is something that Allah entrusted and therefore should be kept and use wisely. This training is not exclusive for the rich, even the poor should train their child to do it. How many child who was poor, and when they grow older and become rich, spend their money carelessly? Whereas we all know that spending money carelessly is not allowed in Islam.

The Messenger of Allah -peace and prayer of Allah be upon him- said,

( إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَرِهَ لَكُمْ ثَلاَثًا قِيلَ وَقَالَ وَإِضَاعَةَ الْمَالِ وَكَثْرَةَ السُّؤَالِ (

“Indeed, Allah loathes for you to do three things: saying, “Some said…some said..”(gossiping), wasting (your) wealth, and too much questioning.” [1]
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The Children’s Rights in Islam part 2

The Children’s Rights in Islam part 2

Author: Ustadz Abu Ahmad Said Yai

10. Provide his living until he reaches adulthood

A child also the right for his living to be provided, such as his food, drink, clothes, and house. The Messenger of Allah -peace and prayer of Allah be upon him- said,

(كَفَى بِالْمَرْءِ إِثْمًا أَنْ يُضَيِّعَ مَنْ يَقُوتُ)]

“It is considered as a sin for a person to neglect the living of people he supposed to be supported.” [1]

(أَفْضَلُ دِينَارٍ يُنْفِقُهُ الرَّجُلُ دِينَارٌ يُنْفِقُهُ عَلَى عِيَالِهِ وَدِينَارٌ يُنْفِقُهُ الرَّجُلُ عَلَى دَابَّتِهِ فِى سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ وَدِينَارٌ يُنْفِقُهُ عَلَى أَصْحَابِهِ فِى سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ)

“The best money that a man donated is the money that he spends for people that he is supposed to provided, money that he spends for his mount (to do jihad) in Allah’s Cause, and money that he spends for his friends (who are fighting) in Allah’s Cause.“[2]

11. Teach him useful knowledges
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The Children’s Rights in Islam (part 1)

The Children's Rights in Islam

The Children’s Rights in Islam (part 1)

Author: Ustadz Abu Ahmad Said Yai

A child is a gift from Allah the Glorified and Exalted, a gift that increases the joy of its parents. A joy that could not be measured with wealth.

A child is a favor from Allah, thus, it is proper for a couple to be grateful to Allah for His favor. Allah the Glorified and Exalted decreed,

{لِلَّهِ مُلْكُ السَّمَاوَاتِ وَالْأَرْضِ يَخْلُقُ مَا يَشَاءُ يَهَبُ لِمَنْ يَشَاءُ إِنَاثًا وَيَهَبُ لِمَنْ يَشَاءُ الذُّكُورَ (49) أَوْ يُزَوِّجُهُمْ ذُكْرَانًا وَإِنَاثًا وَيَجْعَلُ مَنْ يَشَاءُ عَقِيمًا إِنَّهُ عَلِيمٌ قَدِيرٌ (50)} [الشورى:49ـ50]

“The dominion of the heavens and the earth belongs to Allah. He creates whatever He pleases. He grants females to whomever He pleases and males to whomever He pleases, or grants them a mix of males and females, and causes whomever He pleases to be barren. He is All- Knowing, All-Powerful.” (Chapter Asy Syuura/The Consultation:49-50)
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How Life Ends for the Haters

How Life Ends for the Haters

How Life Ends for the Haters

Envy (spite, hate) is an old disease that has brought misfortune to many people and harmed them. Haters will always enrage and oppress innocent people. Thus, there’s an Arabic saying says, “Allah has killed the Spite, how fair He is. It (spite) starts with its own master (the spiteful one) and then kills him.”

‘Umar Ibn al Khaththab –may Allah be pleased with him- said, “It is enough for you that the spiteful uses your joyful time.”

Allah the Exalted declared in some of hadith Qudsy, “A spiteful one is the enemy of My favor, people who always gets annoyed by My deed, and one displeases of My giving.”

The Arabs used to say, “A master will never escape from a merciful one who is always praising and a hater who is always insulting (him).”

An expert in jurisprudence named Abu al Laith as Samarqandy –peace be upon him- said, “Five sanctions that will reach the hater first before its spite reaches its target (the hated one); firstly, a never ending distress, secondly, a misfortune without reward, thirdly, an insult without praise, fourthly, the wrath of his Lord, and fifthly, the door to Allah’s guidance will be closed for him.”
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