The Children’s Rights in Islam -part 3
Author: Ustadz Abu Ahmad Said Yai
Train him to use his wealth properly according to his needs, and get him used to save it and avoid extravagant lifestyle
Parent should pay a close attention to this point, because wealth is something that Allah entrusted and therefore should be kept and use wisely. This training is not exclusive for the rich, even the poor should train their child to do it. How many child who was poor, and when they grow older and become rich, spend their money carelessly? Whereas we all know that spending money carelessly is not allowed in Islam.
The Messenger of Allah -peace and prayer of Allah be upon him- said,
( إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَرِهَ لَكُمْ ثَلاَثًا قِيلَ وَقَالَ وَإِضَاعَةَ الْمَالِ وَكَثْرَةَ السُّؤَالِ (
“Indeed, Allah loathes for you to do three things: saying, “Some said…some said..”(gossiping), wasting (your) wealth, and too much questioning.” 
One of the mistakes in educating children is to give them anything they want without taking heed of the benefit and the use of their request. This practice would unconsciously lead to a child becoming a spender and thus unable to use his wealth wisely.
A child should also be accustomed to saving. It should be explained to him about the importance of saving for his future. By that, a child will be able to maintain and use his wealth in future, by Allah’s permission.
Motivate him to live independently, confidently, and avoid being dependent to others when he reaches maturity
Many parent are being negligent of these things. They do not educate their child to live independently. A common example that we could see is the dependence of children who have graduated from senior high school or its equivalent to their parents. While in the past, it was an ignominy for children at that age if they couldn’t live on his own or help their parents.
The Messenger of Allah -peace and prayer of Allah be upon him- once walked past ‘Abdullah Ibn Ja’far -may Allah be pleased with him-, and at that time his parent were dead and he was still a child; he was selling things with other children. The Messenger of Allah -peace and prayer of Allah be upon him- prayed for him, “Allahumma baarik lahu fii bai’ihi!” (O Allah, bless him upon his selling!” 
Look how the companions had trained their children to be independent of others, even though they were still small kids.
It is also important to build a child’s confidence. Confidence is very important for his development and usefulness to other people. An insecure child will always looked lagging, different from those with confidence. A common example in our society is the lack of courage to speak in public and convey ideas. There are very small numbers of people who are bold enough to speak in public, compared to those who aren’t.
In the past, the Messenger of Allah -peace and prayer of Allah be upon him- had sent ‘Ali Ibn Abi Thalib to Yemen to be a judge to solve disputes that happened there. ‘Ali said, “O Messenger of Allah, you send me to people who are older than me, to be a judge among them?”. The Messenger of Allah -peace and prayer of Allah be upon him- said, “Go on, verily, Allah will support your tongue, and give guidance to your heart.” 
Educate him about the importance of da’wa (enjoin) and to be useful people to others
In chapter Al ‘Ashr, Allah mentioned how every single human being is at loss, except for four kinds of human; the faithful, the ones who do righteous deed, the ones who advise one another with goodness, and with patience. Therefore, parent should teach their child about the importance of enjoining people to do good and to be useful to other, in order to avoid being at loss.
The Messenger of Allah -peace and prayer of Allah be upon him- said,
((أَحَبُّ النَّاسِ إِلَى اللَّهِ أَنْفَعُهُمْ لِلنَّاسِ))
“The most beloved people to Allah is the most useful to mankind.”
Allah the Glorified and Exalted recounted the speech of Isa (Jesus) -peace be upon him- :
وَجَعَلَنِي مُبَارَكًا أَيْنَ مَا كُنتُ وَأَوْصَانِي بِالصَّلَاةِ وَالزَّكَاةِ مَا دُمْتُ حَيًّا
“and has blessed me wherever I might be and has enjoined upon me Prayer and Zakah (purifying alms) as long as I live;” (Chapter Maryam/Mary:31)
One of the interpretations for this verse, as quoted by Ibn Katsir -may Allah have mercy on him- in his book of tafseer is, “Being blessed means by commanding people to do good and prohibiting them from committing evildoing.”
What a pleasure for any parent to find their child being blessed by propagating goodness to others.
Advise him to always be tough and patience in enduring all kind of trials
Advising a child to be tough and patience should be done since his childhood, in the hope that when he reaches adulthood, and faces many trials, he will always be tough and patience to its end.
Lets see how Luqman Al Hakim advised his to be patient, and how Allah the Exalted had eternalized his words in the Qur’an:
يَا بُنَيَّ أَقِمِ الصَّلَاةَ وَأْمُرْ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَانْهَ عَنِ الْمُنكَرِ وَاصْبِرْ عَلَىٰ مَا أَصَابَكَ إِنَّ ذَٰلِكَ مِنْ عَزْمِ الْأُمُورِ
“Son, establish Prayer, enjoin all that is good and forbid all that is evil, and endure with patience whatever affliction befalls you. Surely these have been emphatically enjoined. ” (Chapter Luqman:17)
Protect his chastity by marrying him off when he needs and is able to marry
In our time today, Children who have reached maturity are faced with many kinds of ordeals, particularly of women. Only a few of them that could survive from this ordeal. Even if they are able to survive from adultery, they are unable to escape the ordeal of lust on their eyes and hearts. Thus it is inappropriate for parent to let their child being sinful from time to time.
Most of the time parents are too focused on society’s opinion that necessitate a child to study until the highest level or until he works and owns stabile income, hence the large number of young man and woman who aren’t married yet although they’ve reached the decent age to marry.
If we reevaluate that society perception, we’ll see that most of the parental worries are merely regarded the worldly aspects. Only a handful of them that care about their children’s afterlife. Don’t they believe that Allah is The One Who controls every person’s sustenance?
Ibn Qudama said, ” it is compulsory for a father to maintain the chastity of his child, when his child needs it. This stance is the obvious one according to the school of Shafii..” 
In the end, these are some rights of the children in Islam that I could mention in this article. I hope that those points could represent other rights of the children that I couldn’t bring up yet.
By looking through those points, we are able to see the beauties of Islam in regulating the relationship between parents and their children. Islam is already complete, and perfect. However, many of the muslims refuse to learn Islam, and choose to take guidances from religion other than Islam, or novel studies regarding children education, of which there are some that still need to be filtered, whether it goes along with Islam or not.
May this article benefits us all. Amin
 Narrated by Al-Bukhari no. 1477 and Muslim no. 4485
 Narrated by Abu Ya’la in his work “Musnad” no. 1467 and Ath-Thabrani , Al-Hafidzh Al-Haitsami said, “The narrators of both chain are trustworthy”. (Majma’ Az-Zawaid book IX page. 466)
 Narrated by Ahmad in his work “Musnad”no. 666. Sheikh Syu’aib Al-Arnauth said, “The narration is valid, the narrators are trustworthy and narrators of the two sheikh except for Haritsah bin Mudharrib.” (Al-Musnad, Published by Muassasah Ar-Risalah: Beirut)
 Narrated by Ath-Thabrani in Al-Mu’jam Al-Ausath book VI page. 139 and Al-Mu’jam Ash-Shaghir book II page. 106 no. 861. It is classified as good hadith by Sheikh Al-Albani in Silsilah Al-Ahadits Ash-Shahihah no. 906 and no. 426, and in Shahih At-Targhib wa At-Tarhib no. 2623.
 Al-Mughni by Ibn Al-Qudamah book IX page. 258, published by Darul-fikar: Beirut.